The Disadvantages Of Being In a ‘Friends With Benefits’ Arrangement

Having experienced the ‘ins and outs’ of campus life, I have seen how this kind of arrangement is common. Campus guys get thrilled with the idea of having a friend with benefits. They see it as way of enjoying the ‘goodies’ without having to put in so much effort. Ladies on the other hand see it as a way to just be free and have fun without heart breaks or regrets since they know what they are getting themselves into.  Being in this kind of arrangement can be exciting but it has its deadly disadvantages.
I call it an arrangement because it isn’t really a relationship. It’s somehow like the link between an employee and a company – “I do good work for you and you pay me at the end of the month and we both stay in a comfortable state.” No complications.
Every adult makes choices and everyone has a reason for the things they do, including those sharing their goody bags with that special friend (except they aren’t exactly friends because when sex is introduced, it ruins everything) including friendships that could actually mean the world.
Here is why it is better to let the friendship be without bedroom benefits.
The friendship won’t survive
That friendship might have a bright future but believe me; once you turn F into FWB the happy moments will only last for a few weeks or months then disaster will creep in. Once you start, you are more likely going to be about this senseless adventure than the friendship that brought you people together in the first place.
You will no longer be friends that study together or engage in constructive business expeditions. Sex will be what the two of you crave and sooner or later one of you will get bored. Things can never go back to the way they used to be after that and the ‘friendship’ will eventually end.
There are high chances you are not the only one
Today’s world is messed up and morality happens to be the least of anyone’s concerns. Your partner in the ‘friends with benefits’ arrangement is probably giving out the benefits to ten other people too. And honestly, who are you to complain? I mean neither do you own the goods nor the owner of the goods.
The scary part is, If it’s a lady, she might get pregnant by another man and pin it on you since you are the hardworking one with lots of cash. Since there are certainly those times you convinced each other to eat the sweet without the wrapper, you won’t be a liberty to refuse. You’ll end up in child support strings or in an unhappy marriage raising another man’s child.
When “the love of their life” comes along it would pain you death
Whether you are a hardcore or you are a man or woman with emotions, when the real person your friend with benefits is feeling comes along, you would feel totally used like Drake and you would fade away from their consideration faster than some people’s common sense. It will hurt you seeing that person in love while you are struggling in your dry spells and no sensible person wants you.
You have never and will never go on real dates.
Sooner or later, one or both of you will regret all the Kamasutra you have been doing. In most case it’s usually the ladies that regret since men don’t put too much emotion into sex.  You might have fun cooling off some steam, but the truth is, everyone craves moments of passion – The moments where our ‘tools of trade’ aren’t what matter but our hearts, our aspirations and our purpose.
Real dates ensure that you both have real conversations and understand each other more. But when all the relationship is based on is sexual benefits you’ll just end up feeling like decent whores.
Furthermore you cannot take this person to important family events or any event whatsoever: Because they aren’t exactly your friend and it has not become socially acceptable to introduce someone as your FWB (Friend with Benefits) or PITFB (Partner in the fucking business)